Of course I realize not everything we read in gossip outlets is true, but word on the street is that two starlets have been duking it out over the attentions of one life coach.

If in fact this was just another fabricated story pitting two famous women against each other to titillate, that’s kind of sad. But if it means there’s a starlet shopping for a new coach, maybe I should throw my hat into the ring.

Here’s my hesitation, though. Depending on what story you read, the aforementioned coach is referred to as a life coach, mental health professional, eating coach, counselor, or sober companion. It is the seemingly random interchanging of these titles or labels that confuses people about my esteemed profession and in this instance has me mystified as well. I, for example, am most certainly a life coach, but not a mental health professional or a counselor. While I can offer guidance on eating for wellness, I would not call myself an eating coach. And, while technically the approximately four glasses of wine a month that I consume make me a sober companion to my friends most of the time, I wouldn’t consider it a job title.

So, proceeding as a life coach, I’m going to suggest some ideas for goals a starlet might consider setting, kind of like I’d do in a typical one-hour consultation. Since this is based on information gleaned from media sources that might be shaky in their accuracy, consider this a guideline not necessarily set in stone.

Dear Starlet:

First of all, it occurs to me that one of the key questions I like to ask my clients would have a whole new meaning when posed to you: If money were no object, what would you do with your life?

Since Forbes ranked you among the richest women in entertainment, I’m going to assume money is no object in your life. If I’m wrong about this, well then clearly you need to set a financial goal about learning how to “hold” money. But I think it’s safe to operate from the premise that you’re set for life and therefore we can create goals that have no financial constraints.

Understand that often I work with clients who want to go to school but can’t afford it or want to start their own business but don’t feel comfortable taking a chance with the family savings. You, however, have been earning money since you were tiny and have amassed quite a fortune. So perhaps we should reword the question like this: Ideally, what does your life look like?

Maybe your answer is, “I wouldn’t change a thing.” In that case, why hire a life coach at all? But if you’d like to, say, go back to college and earn your degree, I can relate because I’ve been there, done that. The second time around I got terrific grades because I really wanted to be there. I guarantee you’d have a whole different experience than the first time around. If the rumor is true that the main reason you quit school was because you were dumped by a guy you loved, then by all means let’s put college at the top of your goal list and word it something like this: To treat college like my intellectual playground and earn a degree.

If the college route is definitely not appealing, then think about what is. Do you love what you’re doing now? Lately you’ve landed a few small roles in TV and film. Is this a direction that feels right in your gut? Do you want to take acting to the point of mastery? That might be goal number two: To become the best actor I can possibly be.

Maybe an addendum to that is tapping into one of your favorite subjects in school -- creative writing. Your forthcoming book centers around inspiring others. Is this a theme you’d like to continue in your writing projects? Do you have specific goals around forthcoming writing ventures? I think it would be wonderful to set a writing goal, but I’m also a little biased in that area.

That takes care of education, career and basic intellectual stimulation. Let’s move on to health and your physical self. How is that going? There have been rumors of an eating disorder and of course there’s the heavy partying. How are you doing now? Has there been a wake-up call in any of this? I hope so.

Truly, I must ask -- have you ever considered the possibility of unifying body and spirit? I would highly recommend spiritual exploration as a way to quiet the demons and find inner peace. The goal could read like this: Prioritize and nurture body and soul.

Let me say here that I’m not accusing you of anything. I don’t have any inside information to confirm the validity of what I’ve read. Again, these are guidelines based on the little any of us in the public know of your life.

So let’s review your goal possibilities:

1. To treat college like my intellectual playground and earn a degree
2. To become the best actor I can possibly be
3. Prioritize and nurture body and soul

In addition, it would be terrific to set a writing goal and to be mindful of caring for your money and your business.

I will close with this. Happiness must come from the inside out, not the other way around. You are only in your 20s. What a coup and a blessing it would be to learn that now.

I hope you found this helpful. Thanks for listening.

Sincerely,
Nancy Colasurdo

Nancy Colasurdo is a practicing life coach and freelance writer. Her Web site is www.nancola.com. Please direct all questions/comments to FOXGamePlan@gmail.com.